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Tuesday, September 27, 2016

The Chicken Coop Fire

This is from the Prologue of my book My Worst Thanksgiving Ever and it describes a totally surrealistic event that happened on the Fourth of July in 2012. At the end, I put a note from my newest book Mythomania which describes a feeble attempt to make sense of the events that day. I say "feeble" because it is difficult to rationalize the irrational:

"The Midwest was in the middle of a heat wave and drought that Independence Day. It was so hot and dry that our Township banned outdoor fires on the 3rd. The closest large municipality, Milwaukee, set a record high of 102º Fahrenheit on the Fourth. I was inside the house on my recliner drinking a cold Diet Mountain Dew when I heard a loud rush of noise, comparable to a speeding semi-truck passing in the opposite direction, except it was constant and getting louder. I looked out of the kitchen window and saw that the chicken coop was on fire. I yelled for my wife Angie to call 9-1-1 and I rushed to put it out.

The coop is so far from the house that the two connected hoses ended about 15-20 feet from the fire. Yelling over the roar of the fire I shouted to our son Ben to grab the hose-end nozzle and throw it to me. I was downhill from the house and saw Angie put the other two children Jon and Savannah, into our S.U.V. which was partway down the driveway. She then shouted something to Ben who had picked up the nozzle to throw to me. He dropped it on the ground. When he turned from his mother to face me, he shrugged his shoulders and started walking towards the vehicle. I yelled again for him to throw me the nozzle. He stopped, looked at me, then faced Angie who said something to him. He started for the S.U.V.

In unbelieving desperation I turned back towards the fire which was so hot that I had to back up a few paces. Placing my right thumb over the end of the hose, I tried to create a stream forceful enough to reach the coop. It was hopeless. Goodwife Angela convinced Ben to abandon me in the midst of an emergency. Later that day, after they took off for God knows where, she told him something that was confusing and schizophrenic-like in its reasoning.


She told him that he was a 'Hero.'”

"The chicken coop fire is pivotal. Angie hid the kids away from me, told her friends that I was 'out of control,' and then proceeded to destroy my life because in her mind, I started the fire. She points to the ticket I got as “proof.” But deliberately starting a fire is arson, which is a felony. I was not charged with arson. I got a misdemeanor citation for having an outdoor fire the day before. Which is what I admitted to the cops. Remember, whenever someone calls 9-1-1 in Wisconsin, they must make an arrest or issue a citation. Ironically, I am the one who told Angie to call 9-1-1. Not only that, I was also the only one in the family who fought the fire. Hardly 'out of control.'”

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

MYTHOMANIA

Mythomania: A Psychodrama
How can we stay sane in a sociopathic society? How do we create a sane, empowering society when we ourselves have disordered personalities? I try to answer these questions in my newest book Mythomania: A Psychodrama. Think of it as a Prequel to My Worst Thanksgiving Ever since I describe the forces that conspired against me to destroy my clinic, finances, reputation, and eventually my marriage. Are you curious about how Angie ever got to the point where she thought that convincing the U.S. embassy in Nicaragua to abduct Ben away from me was a good idea? Worse yet, that she truly believed what she did was the only right thing to do?

I use Dr. M. Scott Peck's classic People of the Lie as a framework for my book. 30 years ago he tried to marry psychiatry with religion in an attempt to heal not only broken lives but also a broken society. In essence, what happened to me before the events of that Thanksgiving weekend was my own personal My Lai.

While there is precious little hope for People of the Lie, I do believe that we can take measures at all levels towards healing ourselves and our country. At the end of the book I offer a "Treatment Plan" with several suggestions that I feel are necessary for this process to be successful. Once again, enjoy and learn!